some says i shouldnt be putting so much effort in the relationship,cuz if it fails it'll hurt u like mad
some says i should be putting as much effort as i could in the relationship,cuz if u never put effort it it,its worthless to be memorable.
*hurm..what to pick*
still wondering which should i pick on,but i always believes that i should be giving my best,if i being in a relationship which is a so called 'play-play' ,unserious,just go out for a movie,some lil hug n kiss then go back home not layan each other or w.e,i rather i would not have this.Pretty much a waste of time and my effort.
somehow i recalled why i broke up with karmen(1st ex),prolly its because that she's giving so much and putting so much effort in the relationship while me,a total newb in these luv stuff doesnt knows how to 'love' her back. So in the end broke up in a pretty peaceful way,we still could talk nowdays but she's studying overseas which is a great thing(g'luck to u karmen). Maybe its that i learn a lil too much on what a relationship should be and how i should alwez fixed things up,and that's why i've my expectations..i used to live in that 'w.e goes around,let it be' attitude,but i'm no longer those kind of guy.And once you've expectation u wnts the other party to somehow 'repay' or do something equally back...
bleh...life is such a mess back again,luv stuff do makes ppl goes @.@ ...anyway,do u guys think my expectation is somehow too high?would luv to hear what u guys thinks..
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14 years ago
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Only people with expectations can go far.
Think about it,
If you love someone truly, of course you will put effort in it, because when you love her, all you want, is to make her happy which in turn, makes you happy.
And if you love someone truly, of course you will want her to really love you back. For, what is the use if she don't love you back?
Is it any different from she having an affair behind your back?
of course there's no difference, because in this two situations, the result is the same = she don't love you.
A person thinking of their own will say : >
"why would i wanna waste time and my youth on someone that don't love me?"
A person who thinks of love and only love, will say : >
"why do i want to tie someone who don't love me to myself? making her unhappy which in turn makes me unhappy?" and he will really mean it.
Does it matter? if she don't love you or love you?
As long as you love her, you will know where to go, follow your head and your heart.
If you think she is unhappy, let her go.
If you think she is happy, hold her with you.
If you think she dunno how to show that she loves you,
Why force? why not try to show her how to love?
If you say like your 1st ex, trying too hard, suffocates you, then why don't you not do the same mistake?
Think about it, it is only with expectations in love, that you know what to do.
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